Platnumkitty

Category: Collected Thoughts

  • We Built the Life. I’m Not Sure We Built It Together.

    We Built the Life. I’m Not Sure We Built It Together.

    The personal companion to ‘Loving Someone You’ve Outgrown’ — because sometimes the most honest writing happens in the smaller room. A nurse, a lawyer, a mother of three, a woman who built the life she used to dream about — and the question she is sitting with now: did all that growth happen at the…

  • From the Storm to the Sky

    A tornado warning. An empty highway in the dark. Hail pounding the windshield. And then — a window seat above the clouds that changed everything. In this post, I share what happened when a work trip to Chicago for the AONL conference turned into one of the most unexpectedly beautiful experiences of my life —…

  • What I Didn’t Write

    What I Didn’t Write

    The personal side of ‘Lonely Together’ — what I didn’t write in the public essay. Almost thirty years, three kids, a life built from a summer that was never supposed to be permanent. This is the honest version: what quiet loneliness actually feels like from inside a long marriage, and why love alone is sometimes…

  • The Direction of Us: Growing Toward Each Other vs. Growing Apart

    The Direction of Us: Growing Toward Each Other vs. Growing Apart

    Why do some couples grow closer over the years while others quietly grow apart — even when both people are changing, evolving, and trying? This deep-dive explores the psychological and sociological forces that determine the direction of growth in long-term relationships: the patterns, the pivot points, and the surprisingly actionable things that tip the balance…